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Welcome... About Lizbeth and how Pink Flamingo began, the abridged version... Awakening... By
the time I was a teenager my fantasies had developed into elaborate tales,
involving more sophisticated themes of bondage and whipping, being tied to
trees and harbored in deviant nunneries, abused for the pleasure of men
and of course my own physical need. Inside my mind, was a voice of low
timbre and dispassionate reasoning, which led me through strange rituals
that I’d sometimes perform in my waking life. All this disturbing secret
me existed to satisfy what was obviously an urgent need as mysterious as
it was grotesque. As
an innocent child of the 1960’s, a horrendous guilt came with my
fantasies. Living in a repressed world where sex was whispered about by
adults and giggled about by raunchy adolescents, I was certain that my
secret life was a sin. This was a reasonable response for a churchgoing
young woman with a driving need to feel holy and pure. Unfortunately,
the paradox between my fantasies and my striving for purity was a nagging
burden. My response was to crush the fantasies by force of will and such
passion that they became highly compartmentalized, reserved for only those
times when I couldn’t bear not to indulge. I learned what
“obsession” was, even though I didn’t have a name for it then.
Outside my unwanted obsession, the rest of my life was dry, dull and
unimaginative. I
married fresh out of college... to a war torn man as innocent as I was to
the depths of erotic experience. Ken and I embarked on our new life
without a clue to the surprising turns our marriage would take because of
my bizarre sexual secrets. For
many years we lived with the frigid sexual shut down my paradoxical life
created. But with a real need to resolve an impasse that kept us both
unfulfilled and without the intimacy we desired, the doors began to creak
open a tiny bit at a time. When Ken discovered that the spanking, bondage
and S&M sections of Penthouse Variations aroused me more than all the
others, he finally had a clue to what turned me on. Shortly afterward, a
riding crop appeared one night in the middle of sex … and then The Story
Of O, and several other volumes of BDSM lore appeared between the sheets. A
little bit at a time I began to talk about my desires, and to my great
surprise and relief, Ken didn’t judge me. I won’t say it didn’t take
some time for this awakening to unfold, because it certainly did. About
twelve years ago, the floodgates suddenly seemed to burst open when we
began the study of Oriental philosophy. It seemed innocuous at first. But
as I began to really look inside myself, I discovered the woman behind all
the masks and fear. My sexual fantasies couldn’t help but emerge along
with many other things I had suppressed. With the unfolding, my physical
coldness began to melt, my sexual desire was vibrantly rekindled, and the
long sleeping muse of fantasy began to flower. As my own submissive
desires became okay, Ken’s dominant ones began to surface. Finally, what
had seemed like an impossible obstacle in our marriage—sex—began to
make sense. We began to enjoy, discovering what we really wanted, and that
kinky as it was, it was okay. Writing Erotica... That
was when Ken and I started Pink Flamingo Publications. We began publishing
my spanking fiction, for which I had a readymade audience, especially
female readers from Romantic Times Magazine (a publication that reviews
romance novels). Pink Flamingo grew quickly, with a big jumpstart when I
introduced my Bdsm writing. Independent of the other publishers, I was
able to expand my visions, going into greater depth about the sexual
motivations and desires of women, which has always been very important to
me in my work. I
write with the belief in mind that understanding sexuality as a basic
element of human nature, erotica—in all its many forms—has the
capability of opening doors to intimacy between sexual partners, as well
as providing a fresh and invigorating outlet for safe sexual expression.
My purpose has always been to celebrate without judgment what is real
about sexual pleasure. My writing is clearly fiction, occasionally based
on personal experience. And yet, over the last few years, I have been
surprised to discover that, while many of my first books seemed like
outrageous fantasy, those sexual acts and lifestyles I have written about
have become ‘real time’ lifestyles for many. I find it encouraging
that more and more people feel comfortable enough to bring their fantasies
to life. Lizbeth |
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Fantasy is sexual fun, and it has its place in our sexual
world—whether we use it or not to stimulate ourselves—some people do,
others don’t. Whether we daydream in complex stories, or just imagine a
perfect lover, fantasy is a little world of our own making that can
provide pleasure, physical release, and a moment away from the harder
realities of the real world. Fantasy gives us the opportunity NOT to be
monogamous, politically correct, safe, sane, appropriate, or even
consensual. Fantasy can be great sexual fun; but it’s not the stuff of choices. Fantasy is not true Desire (with a capital “D”), and it does not necessarily reflect who we are or what we’ll choose to do. It is not a serious statement of our sexual truth, but simply a collection of random thoughts and fun creations that turn us on. No
Apologies, © 1998, Lizbeth Dusseau, all rights reserved |
I
do have another life outside the world of Lizbeth Dusseau, my husband, Ken,
much more
than the publisher of my novels. We spent many years on the West
Coast early in our marriage, and now nearly as many in the Midwest. We love tending our gardens, cooking and eating great food, and
spending time diving into kinky pleasures, living the 'lifestyle' in a way
that enriches our daily lives. We also enjoy meeting open-minded
people who share our kinks and have found many very special friends
through this unique career. In addition to his running the day to day world of Pink Flamingo, Ken writes poetry - some of which appears in my Bbsm short story collection Extremes—although much of his poetry was written some years ago as a way to heal the combat trauma he endured in Vietnam. If you'd like to read more of our personal story told through my prose and Ken's poetry, you'll enjoy reading When Power Tears The Air, Return To The Garden Of Eden—A Story Of Spiritual Monogamy, and Laughing In The Dark. We have a lot to say about our path of self-discovery, healing, sexuality and building a great relationship. I’m sure that some of our quirky twists will seem strange to some, but we invite you to take a look. You’ll find more information about our three non-fiction, non-erotic books on the Black Swan Library Page. The excerpts above comes from No Apologies about my philosophy of erotic fantasy fiction. Write
to Lizbeth at: lizbeth [at] pinkflamingo.com
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